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Law in Contemporary Society
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If Only I Were Taller-- By SarahChan - 11 Apr 2025To Be a MuseHelen of Troy, Xi Shi, Audrey Hepburn—women who broke kingdoms and made poets weep. Perhaps, every little girl dreams of being seen like them: oh, to be a muse—adored and immortalized in verse. Yet, too often, beauty became something the world tried to own. Men fought wars, generations framed desire. Lost in it all is the woman herself, stripped of voice and held only in gaze.Early ResistanceI consider myself lucky. Not because I possess transcendent beauty, but because my smaller build and facial features were read by a culture that prized the delicacy of East Asian femininity while harboring a quiet obsession with Eurocentric ideals. In China, I seemed to invite the same question: “Are you half white?” When I answered no, teachers, the nurse, a friend’s parent, or even strangers would surgically deconstruct my appearance. Double eyelids: good. High nose bridge: even better. Long, black hair: excellent. I was told that my future is bright—with looks alone, I could be an actress, Miss Hong Kong, or some rich man’s wife. How could I complain? The world was at my feet. Still, I resisted—silently, with shame, but in ways that felt deeply real. I never owned a doll. I always chose the blue over the pink lunch box. I avoided my passion for the arts; music, dance, interior design, fashion, and literature felt all too predictable. Instead, I ran. Hard. My varsity bag and letterman jacket were testaments to my defiance. I naively believed that an A transcript and Brown admission would change how people saw me. Instead, I was met with: “If you were just a few inches taller, then the world would really be at your feet.” In response, I joked that if I had it my way, I would be a quantitative trader at Jane Street. Private equity was a romantic alternative. Alas, my distaste for math steered me toward law—a front-row seat to the lives I briefly considered.The Illusion of FreedomAs I practiced active listening (and struggled to resist the soft lure of my laptop), “Something Split” from Lawrence Joseph’s Lawyerland pressed at the edges of my calm. I remember Sol asking Eben how he left Cravath—the money, prestige, and reverent whispers of young, aspiring lawyers. He said: “I know what is enough. Everything else? I get paid in freedom.” Freedom is a strange word to me. I’ve only studied it in the abstract. To Sartre, man is condemned to be free—forced to choose and defined by each choice. That responsibility breeds anxiety. In “bad faith,” people retreat into institutions, seeking shelter from what Kundera sums as the unbearable lightness of being. It had never so clearly occurred to me that I was one of those people. Escaping one system, I ran headfirst into another—trading ornament for machine. Even in the West, where freedom is promised (though debatable now), I defined myself by the masculinity I thought I had rejected. Success, to me, meant chasing credentials and polishing myself into the model son. In this performance, I had forgotten why I chose law—to regain my voice and wield it for those forgotten by society.Being Heard is a PrivilegeMy recent reflections on freedom and responsibility came into sharper focus as I read the New York Times article “Who Gets to Kill in Self-Defense?” The author ponders how many of the 12,000 women incarcerated in the U.S. killed as a protective measure against years of fear and abuse. Anita Ford, sentenced to life imprisonment, exemplifies this dilemma. Her case highlights how legal narratives reduce human experience to rigid categories: victim or perpetrator, justified or unjustified. While the law is designed to recognize immediate danger, it struggles to account for the slow, cumulative violence of coercion and control in the private sphere. There was no room for Ford’s reality. My takeaway is that law is not merely about what is argued—it is about who has the privilege to speak and who does not. The deeper truth often lies in what the law refuses to hear. Ford’s case reveals a systemic legal failure to address lived experiences that do not fit neatly within formalistic structures.Defiance as a KnotIt is in these passing moments of clarity that I feel most defeated. As I move between my own words and the drop-down menu of job applications, I watch myself select “Transactional.” I am not sure why—maybe it’s the anxiety that comes with speaking, maybe it’s because English is my second language and grammar never arrives without effort, or maybe it’s because I fear carrying someone else’s weight. But maybe, I am just making excuses. My academic journey began with a misplaced idea of liberation. I clung to the East’s scripted success—obedience dressed as ambition, achievement mistaken for agency. Growing up, I tied knots—stubbornly, but with great care—to show myself I still had a hand in shaping something. Now, with both bound by my own doing, I am learning how much harder it is to unknot what once felt like defiance. In this messy process, I am beginning to notice the small openings I could occupy. My work with Sanctuary for Families (drafting petitions for Orders of Protection) has given me greater confidence that I am enough to help. I recently applied for the domestic violence prosecution externship to grapple with how the system responds to—and often fails—intimate, cumulative harm. I recognize these are small steps, but they are real, and mine. Navigating law school, I will keep an open mind and attuned senses—to hear what the law overlooks, and to see where it tends to silence. I am giving myself permission to imagine another future. And, someday, in knowing that possibility, I may finally find the courage to choose it.You are entitled to restrict access to your paper if you want to. But we all derive immense benefit from reading one another's work, and I hope you won't feel the need unless the subject matter is personal and its disclosure would be harmful or undesirable. To restrict access to your paper simply delete the "#" character on the next two lines:
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